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If you find yourself spending Christmas alone this year, know that there are plenty of ways in which you can make this time special! Being alone doesn’t have to be difficult and you can take this opportunity to do all the things you’ve always wanted to try. In this article, I’d like to give you some ideas on how to cope with loneliness during Christmas and feel okay with being alone during this festive time.
Acknowledge your feelings and accept them
You may be alone this Christmas for different reasons, whether that’s family estrangement, living far away from home or travel restrictions. It’s perfectly understandable to feel sad about it, but it’s also important to accept those feelings. Try to switch your focus to what you can do now to make the Christmas time happy for you, even if you’re spending it away from your loved ones.
Find your community
You’re not alone – I’m sure there are many people in a similar situation as you, and all you’ve got to do is find them!
- Download Umii – it is a university-based networking app helping students make friends at the university. There are always some students staying on campus for Christmas, so why not download the app and chat with them? Maybe you could organise a Christmas Dinner together?
- Night Light Cafe – it is free, non-clinical support for people experiencing a crisis in their mental health. It’s led by volunteers who listen to people and offer their company. All you need to do is book a meeting – they usually take place in the evenings. If you find yourself struggling during this time, don’t hesitate to reach out to them for help.
- Try volunteering – there’s no better way to combat loneliness than giving back to the community. Helping other people can instantly make you feel better, and you will also spend your time doing something important and valuable. You can volunteer in charity shops, care homes, and many more. I’m sure there are plenty of places that’d need help in your area!
Being alone also means that you can devote all your time to yourself. Whether that’s by taking a long and relaxing bath, eating chocolate whilst watching Netflix, going for long walks, or dancing around the house – be good to yourself and enjoy your solitude. It is important to learn how to enjoy one’s own company by focusing on small and simple things. Find joy in becoming your own friend.
Stay off social media
We all know that social media can make us feel bad about our lives, especially during the Christmas period when people might be posting pictures and videos from their family gatherings and parties. If you know that this might be triggering to you, I’d suggest taking a digital detox.
Don’t let the craze over the Christmas season affect you – it’s okay to do nothing at all if that’s what you need.
Useful resources to help you navigate loneliness over the festive time:
- Multi-faith chaplaincy service at the University – they offer support and help if you’re experiencing a mental health crisis, especially during Christmas
- 7cups – if you ever need someone to talk to, this site connects you to caring listeners for a free emotional support
And if you’re still looking for more ideas on what to do during Christmas, check out Adele’s video about all the things you can do in Lincoln!